Proud Moments and Quiet Victories: A Dad’s Journey with His Autistic Son

Meet Eliot Townsend, a devoted husband and proud father of three, including one amazing son on the autism spectrum.  He is an active member of the Autism Dads Social Club. He is committed to showing up—with patience, love, and intentionality—every single day for his family and community. In this heartfelt reflection, he shares how parenting his autistic son has shaped his perspective, strengthened his emotional resilience, and deepened his understanding of what truly matters. His story is a reminder that growth comes not just from milestones, but from the moments we choose to show up and stay the course.

Can you share a moment with your child that made you especially proud to be his dad?

Visiting my son at school is always a proud moment for me.  I was able to visit him during school for lunch, as a watch dog volunteer, and as a mystery class reader. Every time I visit his school his teachers tell me how sweet he is.  They also tell me how smart he is and then proceed to tell me about something that he did that surprised them.  

Some of the many things they told me throughout the year included him unlocking the settings on the school I-pads because he learned the teachers’ passcodes, asking for the teacher’s names, birthdates, and relatives names since these are often security questions to unlock computers, and reading words He has not seen or been taught in school.  All of these are a testament to how smart my son is which make me proud to be his father.  

What has parenting an autistic child taught you about yourself?

Being a parent with an autistic child has taught me the importance of not comparing myself (or him) to others.  We all have our own journey and if I can look back and see that progress is being made, that is what matters.  I have also learned the importance of emotional intelligence and being aware of my response to actions.  It is not what happens to me that matters, but rather how I respond to what happens.    

What routines, tools, or activities have helped your son thrive—and helped you feel more confident as a dad?

Reading to my son prior to going to bed has helped my son with His reading.  Ever since he was ~ 2 years old, I have committed to reading at least one book to him every night.  I believe this is why He is able to read/pronounce words that he may not have seen before as he is learning what sounds letters make together.  It helped me realize that small things done consistently, can have big results over time.  

How do you prioritize self-care or manage stress while supporting your child’s unique needs?

I incorporate routine exercise, specifically outdoors to prioritize self-care.  I enjoy running outside a few times a week which helps with my health and gives me time to myself to let my mind clear and think about things.

What advice would you give to another dad who just received an autism diagnosis for his child?

Understand that your child is unique, just like every other child.  You and your child will experience life differently than others and that is okay.  Remember where you and your child started and as each day goes by, take pride in the progress and achievements you both make.  One day you will look back and see how far you have both come.